by Sex with your partner is a fairly common problem and you are far from the first to encounter this difficulty. About a third of women report that they never achieve orgasm or that they rarely achieve it.
When I give advice on how to make a girl cum I make sure, before any further discussion, to debunk a few myths about female orgasm that confuse men and lead them to form the wrong erotic mindset. In these cases, bad theory leads to bad practice.
Of course, there is anatomical and psychological knowledge that you must have to make a woman reach orgasm – and king-seduction discusses each of the highlights in detail, from first contact to orgasm.
But before we offer you some practical advice on how act like the girl who never comes I want to dispel some myths about the female orgasm and how it is achieved.
The 3 false myths about female sexuality
The most common myth or misconception concerns penis size, that is, for reach orgasm by means of penetration, a large penis is necessary, otherwise there is nothing to be done.
On king-seduction we discussed the Kamasutra and the advice that this Indian classic offers on the question of greatness. The unpaired combination – the short man, the tall woman and vice versa – was said to be a mistake in that it was less pleasant and potentially difficult.
The best thing, depending on Kamasutra gender, is that the partners are compatible in their sizes or, alternatively, one of the two is of average height.
Even the Kamasutra, a text formulated over two millennia ago, was not obsessed with greatness.
The real problem of greatness is indeed the psychological effect of insecurity that it can have on you and therefore make you worse than you could be.
- Penetration is necessary to make the girl cum
It’s a typically male commonplace that any girl interviewed could demystify.
Only a minority of women come with the sole penetration: for the vast majority, penetration must in all cases be accompanied by additional stimuli, such as fingering for example. Keep this fact in mind in your future thoughts about greatness.
- Girls don’t like sex
Strange but not rare impression. This is how some men find themselves thinking, frustrated by their experiences, perhaps even by their own the girls who never come.
In all cases this false impression is due to bad sexual experiences. This happens e.g. that the girl who got it starts practicing a defensive approach towards the sex and sexuality which then excludes the possibility of orgasm. This happens because they develop a psychological mechanism of rejection that completely blocks them.
Your goal, in addition to doing your job well, will be to understand the problem the girl is suffering from, without even excluding professional help.
The psychological problem of the girl who never cums
Trauma aside, let us remember that for a girl the surrender of her body which occurs during sexual intercourse requires a particular psychological effort which for many men is simply incomprehensible.
This is why women seem to have an infinite need to trust And comfort. For bring a girl that never seems to come, the first thing to do is to build his sense of trust in you. You need to abolish insecurities and anxieties, which are not good for you (see discussions on premature ejaculation) or for her.
In the case of the girl who discovers that she has an emotional blockage that prevents her from having an orgasm (and therefore from having good sex), we must try to understand what is causing the blockage. Removed, consider if there is something else creating disruption.
But be careful: this moving and maintenance work takes place with her. Your participation is a condition.
The girl must come to understand herself in order to help you in your effort to help her. If this proves impossible, do not hesitate to call on professionals such as psychiatrists and sexologists. You have nothing to lose by seeking expert advice.
However, I repeat the main tools for overcoming sexual difficulties: trust and lightness, security, communication.
How to Make the Girl Who Never Cums: 4 Important Tips
Now let’s see some practical advice For reach orgasm to your girlfriend.
- Ensure your confidence and relaxation
Never give the impression that you are taking advantage of its availability because the slightest suspicion of unreliability compromises the girl’s confidence in you.
Don’t forget that we are also talking about trust in its unconscious psychological foundations. A woman who says she trusts you and acts as if she does may still have an insecurity about you that keeps her from fully relaxing during the sex.
Secure the woman’s confidence through words and gestures. Let her be relaxed enough to give herself completely to you. THE foreplay they are that stage of sexual intercourse where the woman builds her trust in you as a sexual partner.
- Discover her erotic fantasies and sexuality
To turn her on, ask the girl what excites her the most. Discover his erotic fantasies but more concretely the things he would like you to do.
Women are afraid to open up about these issues. Reassure her of your intentions and cherish everything she tells you. I warn you that erotic fantasy it’s not equal what he would like me to do, so introduce your erotic experiences gradually and with his approval. Keep an eye on her body language and communicate with her constantly if she’s the type of woman who wants to talk during sex (avoid it otherwise).
Different women have different passions. Dressing a certain way, acting out a certain fantasy, being told certain things; striptease, exhibitionism, erotic photography, the sexting? Find out what she likes and find the right way to get there.
- Nurture your self-esteem
Express your appreciation for his body and the things it does. There’s no need to lie – just reassure the girl that she’s doing the right thing and that you’re the man to indulge.
The woman needs to be reassured against her pursuits uncertainties. And as with men, one’s entire sexual experience is influenced by one’s self-perception during sex. The girl who feels attractive during sex enjoys it the most – remember that.
- Abolish the rush
As an ally of anxiety, haste has anti-erotic power. This takes the focus away from the sex itself and doesn’t allow the girl to sympathize with the act like she should in order to let go completely.
Take your time during each stage of the sexual act – especially following the preliminaries. These have greater importance for women and allow them to reassure themselves and build the arousal that should bring them to orgasm. For many women, the absence of foreplay means incompleteness and dissatisfaction.
The girl who feels under pressure will have difficulty coming.
The girl who never comes because of you
Suppose you believe that a girl who never has her balls can overcome the emotional blocks that don’t allow her, there’s always the possibility that you don’t have enough work on the god stage, foresight, technique or errors cause problems. It’s premature.
The last one is a specific problem that very easily causes women to be dissatisfied.
The dynamic is so obvious that it needs no explanation, but there are many solutions.
First consult a medical expert, an andrologist, who can give you professional advice based on your personal situation.
Alternatively, you can improve your fitness through breathing, relaxation and timed exercises. At King-Seduction you will find all kinds of discussions about what and how to treat premature ejaculation. Finally, I would like to point out that the presence of depot condoms can provide specific additional help.
But I want you to understand that for a girl to reach orgasm, you need to develop sexuality. This means that the awakening phase – the preparation phase – must be seen as a responsibility.
A horny girl will find orgasm a thousand times easier than a girl who feels the slightest pressure. Then remember the importance of technique.
Since penetration is not enough stimulation for many girls, and some even enjoy penetration more than other stimulations, learn how to properly stimulate a girl in different ways.
Also note that premature ejaculation is not important for a girl completely aroused by the anticipation and digital and oral stimulation she received
