I start this interesting article with an email from one of our loyal readers:
me (29) and my best friend (24) we have known each other for many years now and ours is a fantastic relationship, we laugh, we joke, we talk regularly. In our relationship there have always been hugs and kisses (not on the lips) and a great feeling of trust. We have always supported each other in difficult times.
I’ve never tried it with her because we’ve both always had relationships with other people over the years. In fact, we’ve been engaged for more or less 4 years. Coincidentally around this time, mine and his relationship entered crisis periods for different reasons. And even in this period we have indeed felt, even more than usual, giving each other courage and advice in this period of very similar difficulty that we are going through.
Well, it’s been more or less a few months now that I realize that I feel something other than a feeling of friendship towards her, perhaps confusing the gratitude that I feel because she is close to me during this period . I didn’t think to tell him. Again by chance, she was the one who started joking that maybe she should think of me as a man and not just a friend.
He was very anxious when he talked about it (that’s kind of his way of doing things) and asked me what I thought about it. I immediately changed the subject as she told me that deep down it might not be the wisest thing. The whole speech had the tone of a request to me and did not seem at all a certainty.
After that, we continued to talk as regularly as before – with no ill effect on his behavior – and he even seemed at times to want to start the conversation again as if to force me to make a statement. Until now I have always escaped by throwing it into laughter. What do you think and what do you recommend? THANKS.”
How to know if a girl likes me is one of the most common questions I get asked. It seems that everyone wants to discover the magic trick, perhaps the power to read women’s minds and know everything with absolute certainty.
In these pages you will find many tools for your relationships with women, but many of these tools will prove completely useless if you – the man in the situation – do not know if you really want the woman in question.
Everything is made more complex by the friendship between man and woman. The friend of the heart, gentle and understanding, is always close to you, does not judge you or oppress you. She supports you through thick and thin and allows you to talk to her about everything. She doesn’t sulk or tease you like a child or even control you with sexual blackmail so that you find yourself at the cinema for the umpteenth time watching postmodern Swedish films in the original language!
Everything is idyllic, fantastic and perfect with the best friend. It’s child’s play to start having romantic thoughts for a woman who, in addition to treating you very well, doesn’t question you if you go to a soccer match in the evening. And do you know why? why you are not together!
The good thing about a friend – and the same can be true for a lover – is that she is actually the ideal form of girlfriend… She is just happy to be with you; doesn’t expect you to read their minds; she won’t be offended if you blame her. A truly dream woman… Of course — because it’s unreal. There the best friend she’s the ideal girlfriend projection.
If she were as perfect as she seems, she would definitely never be single and definitely wouldn’t have trouble maintaining a relationship beyond 30 days. Why, do you think the rest of the male sex are stupid enough not to see this precious pearl? Any man – I put it in terms absolutes – he would marry such a woman within a week of meeting him.
You like as a girlfriend or as a friend?
The big speech I gave you helped me ask the following question: do you like this girl as a girlfriend or as a friend? Without even thinking for a moment about the moment of seduction, I want you to sit down and think about what you want from this woman. YOU. His interest in you is currently secondary.
Remember that you are only a wise man if you learn to know yourself better than anyone else.
As soon as you know what you want this woman to be – your girlfriend or best friend — everything will become easier. The doubts that trouble you at the moment about whether or not she is interested in you are just good excuses that allow you not to act and not make a decision.
It’s up to you to decide What Really Do you want. If she is a friend to you treat her as such, if you want her as a potential girlfriend then he begins to seduce her.
