There are cases where this is not possible make up a girl. This is a fact and we have no choice but to accept it as a premise for the entire discussion that follows. Some ruptures are permanent and irreparable and it would be absurd to think that they could be restored.
I also want you to understand that a moment of anger, frustration, disappointment, and worry after an argument or breakup is normal and acceptable. For you and for him, a moment’s break is healthy.
So take a moment to let the storm pass. Take a moment to think about what happened with as much perspective as possible.
Once this is done, it will be simple make up a girl with whom you have compromised relationships.
Why reconcile with a girl?
Start by defining the reasons why the girl in question was offended, angry, or resisted the relationship.
Clearly establish the entire causal chain: the things you did, the things you didn’t do, all the things you didn’t understand, and finally, everything she did wrong.
In this phase of self-analysis, you have no other choice but to be honest. After all, you only communicate with yourself. Admit your faults because it is on these that the change you are going to make will now focus.
By performing the gesture which will somehow communicate repentance (and which may in fact be a gesture and not a speech), you will refer to the error you believe you made. This is how you show yours sincerity. The alternative would be to simply apologize, without referring to anything, as if you don’t care what really happened. Women perceive generic apologies as a sign of dishonesty.
Understanding the reason behind a broken relationship is difficult for many. Because it requires self-criticism and recognition of guilt. However, it is a phase that must be crossed, even by you.
Remember that the Alpha male is the one who does not hesitate to admit a mistake and apologize.
1. Apologize sincerely to make up for it
Women want honesty and sincerity from you. A lame, generic apology can have the effect of convincing them that you’re lying and just trying to get through the bad times.
To be honest it means to refer to something true: to one or more errors which Really you think you are committed. To understand the relative importance of your mistakes to the girl you’re talking to, you’ll make an effort to identify with her and see it from her point of view. In other words, you will do an exercise in empathy.
The girl doesn’t want a generic, dishonest apology and probably doesn’t even want you to mention any of the minor things that led to your breakup. He probably wants you to apologize for your biggest mistake. This is exactly what empathy is for: understanding one’s point of view and hierarchy of errors.
A girl who discovers that her partner is cheating on her doesn’t always think that cheating is the worst thing.
There are cases where the girl accepts that in the sexual relationship between her partner and a lover, there was no romantic commitment, no love. From then on, she does not feel betrayed in love but betrayed in another sense. Maybe she believes that the lack of trust between her and her partner is the worst thing in the whole story…
First, the woman wants you to show that you understand.
2. What to do after apologizing?
It is permissible for the girl to refuse your apology or that he doesn’t want to communicate with you for a while. Give it a natural period, which could be a few days or a week, before doing anything else.
From now on, assuming you want to repair your relationship, quiet kindness towards him is what you need.
You can also leave him a note or even give him flowers — ask yourself whether it is better to have them delivered or delivered in person. The card with a cordial or romantic message (depending on the type of relationship) may be sufficient communication. You can also take the opportunity to justify the gesture itself in a few lines, if you think that the gift of flowers is a step forward in your relationship.
Flowers and gifts should be simple and tailored to their preferences. Exaggerated and (especially) repeated gifts give the wrong impression that you want to buy his attention and forgiveness.
Your actions in this phase must be studied and executed carefully. Women are often very impressed by significant gestures. Instead, they tend to think that words are unreliable – after all, they don’t cost you any effort.
After expressing your apology, I strongly advise against repeating it. The seriousness of your gesture must not be diminished by repetition and insistence.
The space you give the girl to review your relationship is good. The natural kindness of women works in your favor and you don’t want to compromise her act by harassing the girl and making it seem like you think you can force her.
3. If the girl refuses your apology?
We started by saying that there is a circumstance in which the girl no longer wants to get into relationships again and refuse your apology.
This is a reality that must be accepted. Even if there was the possibility that she would reconsider, the delays could be very long. Either way, the right thing to do is to look beyond it.
I tell you that the sea is full of fish and that even if you want to wait for this girl to change her mind, it is imperative that you continue to interact with other women, build your self-esteem, and demonstrate that you have a life independent of her.
