by Give flowers it can be both a romantic gesture and therefore a step on the path to seduction and a mistake that prepares you for admission to the colorful world of the teddy bear, not much different from the so-called friend zone.
In the particular case where you are looking to get an ex girlfriend back, the bouquet of flowers that arrives after the quarrel is a classic and therefore a valid choice. It goes without saying that in this case the woman should not be furious. You have to wait for high tide to pass. Otherwise, you and the bouquet could be on the way to the trash.
But it is because of television and cinema that entire generations have adopted the idea that give flowers to a woman is a very effective seduction technique, a real tip to conquer any woman. This is not true at all. Giving flowers is not a technique seduction.
But when and how to give flowers to a woman?
The question is legitimate but the answer, like almost all seduction questions, is not unique. I therefore offer you some instructions to follow to know how and when to offer flowers:
- Never give flowers on a first date! The one who shows up with a bouquet of red roses does not seem cautious and elegant but desperate. Besides looking cheesy, you’ll make him believe that you don’t know any other way to get his attention than by buying him gifts.
- Offer flowers with originality. You must try to surprise the woman should in no way be taken for granted. The number must please him but also have a touch of exciting creativity to amplify his sensations.
- Don’t give them away red roses at first. These represent sensual love and hence are easily misled while you are still seducing her. Instead, choose wildflowers, beautiful tulips or poppies in her favorite color (which should always be taken into account).
- Always add a ticket. Even if you deliver them in person, flowers should always be accompanied by a note. Flowers fade, a well-written note can last forever. Write it by hand, in the clearest and most elegant handwriting you are capable of. In the message itself, dilute the importance of the gesture, perhaps with a joke that only the two of you would understand. Don’t forget to sign it too.
- Smile with lightness. Avoid at all costs the common mistake of turning the simple gesture of giving flowers into a drama. Deliver it with serenity, with an amused air, or with a little ironic detachment. This is a small reflection and not an engagement proposal!
- If in doubt, ask the florist. He is the expert advisor in this circumstance and can have the best idea starting with the meaning of the flowers themselves.
How to offer flowers?
In the minds of many men, due to the cultural influences mentioned above, there is the classic scene in which he, fully dressed, shows up at her door with a gigantic bouquet of flowers; she opens the door in an impeccable but suggestive dress and, delighted as if it were the newborn she welcomes in her arms for the first time, she prints a passionate kiss on his lips.
But what is the reality of such a scene?
It’s not real at all – unless the woman in question is already yours. Therefore, to avoid experiencing unnecessary disappointment, imagine the gesture as insignificant and the bouquet you carry as a bunch of artichokes. An indifferent “thank you” from him shouldn’t put you off. In addition to smiling at them when you deliver them, try to lighten things up more with a silly joke like: “Swarovski was closed, I hope it doesn’t make much of a difference.”
You also have the possibility to have them delivered by a delivery person. It’s an effective choice and just as unpredictable: it embarrasses less the woman who is very embarrassed by your presence but it embarrasses more the woman you are still getting to know.
If you choose to have it delivered to her home, make sure that her situation is not prohibitive: that she does not already have a boyfriend or husband, or that her parents cannot get upset.
Don’t even think about letting him find them on his desk like the American movies suggest. It is almost impossible for her to be delighted and her colleagues full of admiration and envy. Remember that you are on planet Earth, in Italy. You would only embarrass her.
In conclusion
Discretion — this is what you must show when you go to give flowers to a woman.
